"When somebody hurts you, they take power over you. If you don't forgive them, then they keeps the power. Forgiv him baby and after you forgive him, forgive yourself."

This quote is from Tyler Perry's Diary of a Mad Black Woman. I just had a movie night with my mother and we watched two Tyler Perry movies. But for some reason, this quote stuck in my head. It is so true. Or at least I think it is.

For those who don't know the movie, here's my pathetic summary of it. There's a woman and her husband comes out and tells her he's been cheating on her and that he has two kids with the other woman. Then he proceeds to tell her that she can't live in the house, he's going to divorce her (as if he was the one who did something), and even though he's super rich, he won't give her any money. Thn drags her out of their house. The whole movie is her trying to get her strength back and courage and whatnot, also with the comic relief of Madea. When her "husband" is shot, the tramp wants the doctors to let him die, but his wife that he threw out stayed by his side. She took him home and when he gave her the same attitude instead of a "thank you", she gets even. Then she decides to stay with him a little longer and help him recover. After she does that, she divorces him and goes to find her true love (who had asked her to marry him, but she didn't answer the first time). Happy ending.

But this quote was from the woman's mother. She needed to help the guy and get him back on his feet and get him to realize what he had done. Then when she finally forgave him, she could go one with her life because she didn't have hate for anyone.

Everyone should follow this example. I'm not saying people should go back to the persons who might have physically hurt them or emotionally. But to not hold grudges against people. Really .. What's the point? There isn't any. It's just useless hot air building up inside of someone for now reason. If someone did something to you and they know it hurt you, but they feel no remorse, don't give them that satisfaction that it got to you. Play it off as if it didn't bother. And later learn to forgive and move on. One should forgive, but must never forget.